
Some
of the most common causes of family disharmony start with the aging of a grandparent.
As he or she needs care, it is commonly one of the children, and frequently a
daughter that provides that care. After an extended period of daily care, it is
common for the caregiver to begin resenting the other offspring who have not
given up their job or neglected their own family to care for mom. This becomes
the beginning of the end of the family harmony that may never repair itself. If
you can qualify for and afford the coverage, adequate long-term care insurance
will allow the family can hire professional care, and allow the offspring to
maintain some normalcy to their day to day life. Another alternative may be to
provide compensation for the caregiver offspring through mom’s will or outright
cash compensation at the time of providing the care.
Another
cause of family disharmony comes from family businesses. It is not common to
have all of your children working in the family business. Some have gone on to
unrelated careers and may have even relocated to other parts of the country to
pursue their dreams. In these cases, it makes sense to somehow equalize your
estate to recognize that family is one thing and the business is quite another.
It may not be fair to have your son in California inherit half of a business
that your daughter will run in Massachusetts after your passing.
A
poor will or trust can also cause heartache after your demise. This can happen
from unclear instructions regarding personal property, where one heir goes and
cherry picks what they want before the others even get a chance to see what mom
or dad still had. It can also happen by allowing children to get too much
before they are mature enough to handle the new found wealth.
If
family harmony is your goal, don’t think that your wonderful parenting skills
alone will do the trick. Communicating your intentions and objectives during
your lifetime and clearly through your wills and trusts are mandatory. If you
want your son who works in the Peace Corps to get favorable treatment in the
settlement of your assets because you feel that your daughter doesn’t need it,
let them know. And remember, things change. Health, wealth and your children’s
needs and family harmony may be different in 20 years than they are today. Plan
accordingly, communicate well and allow your words to live forever.
John P. Napolitano is CEO of U.S. Wealth Management in Braintree, Mass., and 2012 president of the
Financial Planning Association of Massachusetts. He may be reached at jnap@uswealthcompanies.com or on Facebook as JohnPNapolitano and US Wealth
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